Friday, May 31, 2013

Retirement

You know the term “bittersweet?” I never fully lived that word till now. Bittersweet is kind of awful…but wonderful. It’s being SO excited and full of joy at the possibilities and also so very sad you’re not quite sure what to do with yourself.

No, I’m not retiring. ;) My husband is though, after 30+ years of teaching music, and 31 of those years at one school.

Can you even imagine? No one stays at one place for 31 years anymore.

He is the director of bands at his school and has overseen the whole performing arts department (one of the best, if not the best in the country…and I’m not just saying that) for years now.

I was in the band (color guard – the furthest I got on an instrument was playing the recorder…horribly) and fell in LOVE with the whole activity. So all these years I’ve understood his passion for what he does. At least a little bit. Enough be an understanding band wife all these years. If you are one youknowwhatI’msayin.

So while I’m THRILLED to have my husband all to us, our family, for really the first time ever, I’m also so unbelievably sad. It’s hard to put into words.

I’ve lived this world for the past 21 years and my stepdaughter and son grew up in it:

To be a band wife and a.) stay married and b.) make sure your kids see Daddy, you go to a LOT of events. Practices, school functions, football games, band competitions. Every season too – practices in the summer, competitions in the fall, shows in the winter and concerts in the spring.

My son grew up at the high school:

And I got the honor of sticking around my alma mater for another 20 years. I loved high school, I’m proud of that school and I was thinking the other day – how cool that I’ve been able to still walk those halls every month? Keep up with the changes, the staff, build more memories?

UGH. Months ago my husband told me this may be harder on me than him, and he was right at the time. Now it’s hitting him like a ton of bricks, so now we’re both just a MESS. :)

I don’t talk about my husband much on the blog but he is my EVERYTHING. I am the proudest wife on the planet. I have never met a man who works harder, is more successful, but is also the humblest man you’ll ever know. It’s NEVER about him. Always, always, always about the kids.

I’ve been going through hundreds of pictures in preparation for his big bash we’re throwing this weekend, and I hope you bear with me as I share a few and brag on him a little. These pics show so many of the things I love about him.

His unadulterated JOY of conducting:

He is so animated, so obviously in love with being in front of those kids, making music. It all shows when he’s on the podium. It is the definition of passion, watching that. Who gets to do what they are passionate about for 30 years? He is so thankful.

My man is a complicated one – he speaks in front of thousands like it’s nothing. He is a fantastic speaker and usually brings me to tears when he does. But he would so much rather be out of the spotlight, just doing his thing. He’s an odd mix of outgoing and introverted.

This photo so struck me as him in so many ways:

I know he looks upset there, but he’s not. He’s thinking. Contemplating. How to make the kids better. How to teach them more. How to help them succeed. It’s not about winning for him, it’s about life lessons.

I love that photo.

But this is the husband I see most often:

Happy to do what he does. Changing the lives of his students. Always trying to make someone laugh when they least think they will.

Those moments when the attention is on him he hates it…but he is always, always so grateful:

He never takes the credit, and will give it to someone else EVERY time.

But most of all (and now I’m crying, dangit!!!), he is all about his students. I’ve always called them his “kids,” not his students, because they are each his own in a little way. Thousands of them!

This photo was from the last concert in front of his band, and he’s holding up his hand so everyone acknowledges those kids:

Now I need to wrap this up cause I can’t even handle it. :)

Retirement for my husband won’t mean golfing every day – he wouldn’t know what to do with himself. He’s owned his own business for 20 years now (writing music and other stuff) and he will continue to do that. He’s also working with two organizations very close to his heart and he is SO excited.

But so sad. See? Bittersweet, the toughest word of them all.

114 comments:

  1. What a great post about your husband. Sounds like you've got a good one on your hands :)

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  2. Now you will get to have him all to yourself! Or more all to yourself than before. It's pretty neat that he started at this place when he was four years old. You guys are living the retirement at 35 dream! Now you CAN come to Ohio and visit and make fun of all my unfinished projects.

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  3. I've never commented on your blog before (which I adore, but the way!) but I have to give a big "I feel ya, sista!" for this post. I am a Band Director's wife and can relate to how attached you get to the kids, the events, the entire life of a high school band director. Hang in there and know your band family will never be far away and those kids will always be around and part of your lives. :)

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  4. As a band mom I know what all a band director does...he deserves a rest!

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  5. Having been a "Band Mom" (my daughter was also in Color Guard for four years) I can totally relate. The band instructor at our high school was so very loved by his students. When he suddenly passed away after 37 years at the same school there were more band parents, students, and former students at his memorial than family and friends (I'd guess 4 to 1). My daughter has been out of high school for five years and still talks about her years as a Marching Vaquero with such honor and pride! Thanks for being the "gal behind the guy"!

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  6. So awesome! I loved being in band. I played the clarinet and wished I was coordinated enough to be part of the color guard. LOL Congratulations to your husband on all his accomplishments! And I know exactly what you mean about being a band wife. My band directors spouses were amazing!

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  7. What a lovely tribute to your wonderful husband and marriage! thanks so much for letting us share in your emotional transition...it is helpful to everyone... life does change and move on.. you will have a great life together again!

    xo Kit

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  8. Congratulations to your husband! It sounds like he has made a profound impact on so many students. My husband is just finishing up his 12th year of teaching, and sometimes we wonder if he will make it 30 years. I only made it 6...teaching is a hard but rewarding profession. That school is lucky to have had such a dedicated mentor for so many years.

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  9. OMG you made me cry!! Teaching for 31 years, what an accomplishment! Your hubby sounds like an amazing person. It's those few teachers through the years that I remember. The ones you could tell really, truly loved teaching. He's impacted some of those kids lives more than he'll ever know. =) Have an awesome party this weekend!! I'm sure you'll be sharing some pix with us. ; )

    Best wishes for you all in the years to come. I'm sure it'll be full of great opportunities.

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  10. This is such a beautiful tribute to your husband! I am a band mom to an upcoming Sophomore. Our Band Director is retiring this year as well after 35 years! The way you speak of your husbands love for "his kids" is so awesome for a parent of one of those kids! Tell him how much us parents appreciate our band directors!

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  11. I am married to a teacher on the college level - not as labor intensive as a high school band teacher, but I get the dedication. We are lucky to have married these kinds of guys and their students are even luckier. Lovely post..........perfectly lovely.

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  12. I know where you are coming from. My husband is a high school counselor. We are never going to be rich but he loves his job and the kids. What a fabulous legacy your husband has left for your family. And now you get to reap the rewards of all those hard years of work by spending time together, lucky you all! Have fun in the next 30 years.

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  13. Awe, the community will miss him. I took my 2 little bubs last year to see the Tangled Web performance and we all loved it. It was amazing and I had never seen anything like it. Congrats to you guys, though.

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  14. Yes - color guard as well (and recorder was as far as I got on musical instruments) and you have me in tears at your tribute. His kids are so very lucky to have had him as part of their lives and you are so very lucky to have him in yours. Glad you get a little bit more family time, but boy are you going to miss the band!

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  15. Beautiful! Congratulations to your husband for such an amazing career. I'm sure he's touched so many. :)

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  16. Congrats to your husband, and I know you'll enjoy having him around more. Maybe he could guest post for you sometime!

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  17. Best wishes on hubby's retirement. It will be a whole new world!!

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  18. what a wonderful way to honor your husband...I really enjoyed reading this. Good luck to you, your husband and your family...many, many joyful years to come.

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  19. My husband retired from corporate America in January, started his own part time consulting business and now works more than ever! I know your husband will stay busy as well, and happy too. This was such a lovely post that came straight from your heart. Xox. Congratulations on his retirement!

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  20. Such a touching post, and such dedication from him! I wish him (and you) the best of luck with this new adventure!:)

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  21. I was a bandie too (flute, piccolo) and loved every minute of it. An inspiring band director makes all the difference by teaching their students commitment, responsibility, teamwork, etc. Hooray for your husband for giving his students skills that will last a lifetime!

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  22. This was a wonderful reflection of who your husband is. I started weeping from the beginning to the end. Congratulations to your husband on his retirement.

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  23. Such a beautiful post! I love feeling like I've gotten to know you a little more through posts like this :) Good luck with this next season of life, I hope it's just a wonderful as this last one has been :)

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  24. So happy to see someone retiring in the best way possible! Not feeling like they can't wait to get out of there but to go out on top, still loving the job, still loving the kids, with a smile and a wave. Congratulations to you both. For staying married, for loving each other, for loving the kids. You guys deserve a vacation!!

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  25. Thank you for sharing part of your family with us. I hope God blesses you all on this new part of your journey!

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  26. Congratulations to your husband on a fantastic 30+ years! Music in schools is so important - your husband has changed so many lives! I was a music major in college because of fantastic band teachers, and my husband is a composer finishing his doctorate at Brandeis. I love that his work still keeps me in a world that I love (even though I don't play often enough any more), so I totally understand the pull you're feeling right now. You can still be a band booster!! :)

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  27. I love when you share parts of your life like this. It really lets us in on who the blogger behind the blog is. It makes us connect to you more and want to come back even more frequently!! Thanks for sharing.

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  28. Woman, you made me cry and I don't even KNOW you OR your hubby! haha This is the first personal post I have read of yours. I just found ya and have read a bit about your style.
    You have a great way with words and such a blessing in a good man.
    Blessings,
    Shan
    The-How-to-Guru.com

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  29. Dang it Sarah, now you've got me crying! Such a beautiful way to honor your husband. Congratulations on all of your accomplishments Mr. TDC!!

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  30. What a small world! My husband was a band director in your area for a few years (he moved to Northern Indiana and now we're both in graduate school), and we both have always respected your husband and his program. I had no idea that you were his wife until I saw the pictures! You should be incredibly proud of your husband for his contributions in the music education world (and I know you already are!). My former band students loved playing his music as well! Best of luck on his next endeavor!!

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  31. One of the things that's always drawn me to you, Sarah, is the fact that your husband is a high school band director. I get it. My high school band director (Mel Hansen, Ferndale High School, Ferndale, WA) was just like your husband... entirely dedicated to his program and his kids. We still talk about how Mr. Hansen used to walk around with shoes splattered with paint from lining our practice field and how he never slept because he was always working on our shows. Like your husband, he had a wife and son who had to share him with not only the band program but the entire community. I am so grateful to Mrs. Hansen and I'm sure there are many people who are grateful for your/your family's sacrifice all those years. I wish you & your husband nothing but the best as you enter this next stage of your lives together. Mr. Hansen has done great things in his retirement (city council); I'm sure your husband, too, will continue to do great things. P.S. Colorguard girl/instructor here as well- woot woot!

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  32. Oh, my--I know who your hubby is, as I work in another local hs performing arts department. Therefore I also know how incredibly respected he, his program, and his students are. Many thanks to him for his years of service to the children of our community--it's teachers like him who change lives and leave lasting impressions. Have a great party!

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  33. What a lovely tribute to your husband. I'm sure you both will enjoy the next chapter. God Bless.

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  34. I can understand a little bit of this! I've played the violin for 15 years and I've been in countless symphonies. . . It's a unique bond between conductor/teacher/professor and musician/student. Some of my dearest memories have been made with exceptional leaders like your husband. I will cherish those memories for many moons to come! Give your hubby an extra thank you from me because even though orchestra and band are different horns on the same cow, MUSIC is one-in-the-same, and it will always need {and remember} great people like him. :) {P.S. I don't blame you for blubbering while writing that post. I would have done the same!}

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  35. Beautiful post, Sarah. What a great tribute to your husband! Sounds like an exciting time in your lives. Embrace this next chapter. It's bound to be wonderful! Have a super weekend!
    Blessings,
    Nici

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  36. It is obvious you share a deep love for each other. You were both so blessed to share this moment together and move forward together. So many wonderful memories to share and new ones to make. Best of Luck to you both!Let there always be beautiful music in your lives!

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  37. Having been a band, choral, drama girl growing up, I know how much those kids look to him. For way more than just music!!! Congratulations to him, and much success in his new endeavors. To be and stay a teacher for that long is quite an accomplishment!!! Beautiful images as well.

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  38. Congratulations to your husband on his retirement. He sounds like a wonderful man and teacher. You are blessed!

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  39. That's a very touching tribute. Question- did you marry your band director? ;o)You mentioned he had been there for 31 years and that it was your alma mater from 20 years ago?

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  40. Congratulate your husband from me. What an awesome tribute to him. Enjoy this new phase in your lives.

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  41. I recently retired after 33 years in the classroom (first grade..yikes!....I'm crazy!) and it was the hardest decision I ever made. My life for three+ decades revolved around DOING for children, as has your husband's. But there comes a time when you you just can't be drained dry anymore, even if you're not 100% ready to let it go. But we will always have those countless memories and know that what we did, did indeed make a difference. Kudos to your husband for a long, successful career and best wishes to you all as you begin a new journey. I am sure his heart is huge enough to continue to give. Please congratulate him on a long, wonderful career.

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  42. I recently retired after 33 years in the classroom (first grade..yikes!....I'm crazy!) and it was the hardest decision I ever made. My life for three+ decades revolved around DOING for children, as has your husband's. But there comes a time when you you just can't be drained dry anymore, even if you're not 100% ready to let it go. But we will always have those countless memories and know that what we did, did indeed make a difference. Kudos to your husband for a long, successful career and best wishes to you all as you begin a new journey. I am sure his heart is huge enough to continue to give. Please congratulate him on a long, wonderful career.

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  43. This was so sweet! Congrats to your husband on his retirement! Seems like you two are very lucky to have each other.

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  44. What a great post. Funny story- I actually know your husband through my husband, Mark Richardson. I now remember a few years ago, that I had lunch with your husband and Scott Lang and your husband told me you had a blog...but I forgot! I have been following your blog because I love it and this entire time I had no idea of the connection.

    I know your husband is like mine- he will not be "retired" for long. These band guys always find something to keep busy with!

    Congrats to you both. Hopefully you get some more family time now. (Although I doubt it! Another 'perk' of the job!)

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  45. Okay, where are the tissues. Bittersweet is the perfect word. Enjoy every moment!

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  46. OMG you made me cry too ! My daughter played flute in high school. I didn't shed a tear at graduation but cried like a baby at her last concert. I totally understand how you feel but sounds like your husband has greater things waiting on him ! Congrats.

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  47. When my husband retired 10years ago, I felt the same way. He had been a Marine for 30+ years, 12 years with me, and it was indeed very bittersweet. The new "schedule" will take a few weeks to get used to. But we have developed a rhythm that works now. We try very hard to give each other space. My sweetie is a golfer, and I am a Blogger. So it works. :) Enjoy your new lives together. We are more in love now than ever. xxoo

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  48. What a fantastic blog about a man you admire and love so much, it was done in just the right way and with great pictures too.. I think you are a very lucky girl to have such a super man, and he is very lucky to have a wife that appreciates everything he does.. what a magical combination and a rare one, but lovely to see and share in.. thank you for sharing and special wishes for both of you in this new exciting chapter, what amazing adventures are waiting for you both.. much happiness and love sent from over here over the pond to you both and your lovely family, janzi

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  49. What a beautiful post your love for him oozes off the page! I hope you both enjoy this next chapter in both of your lives! Oh and that sweet baby boy of yours is so cute!!!

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  50. So cool. I was in his school's band program for a couple years and it was always a treat when he directed us! CHS will miss him.

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  51. Awesome! Hard work pays off.

    http://basicallybrandy.blogspot.com/

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  52. This post was absolutely amazing. I knew you were married to a music teacher, but you are married to one of the MOST talented musicians in the country. Congrats on his amazing career as a teacher. Now on to new adventures! My husband and I are both teachers...I hope we both survive the changes in education to make it through to 31 years.

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  53. I have no idea who either of you are in "real" life, but you and the story of your husband have brought me to tears....I can just feel the love you have for your husband through your words! Congrats to your family, enjoy your time together!!
    Rebecca

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  54. Always good to know there are some really great ones out there. Growing up, I was in band, and my most memorable teachers were 9 out of 10 my band teachers/conductors. There's just something different about people with a passion for music.

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  55. After spending 8 years in Marching Band, 2 kids back to back, I totally get it! Your hubby is an awesome director. He gets it! I think our former director, Dr. Howard Stephens from Ohio, probably knows him. You will always have music in your house. Can't wait till the little one gets his turn!

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  56. Former band buddy here. In fact, that's where I met my husband! I understand his commitment to the kids as my husband is a coach. I don't think people understand how much goes on behind the scenes and what the families of coaches, band directors, etc go through. There have been many times that he missed his own kids' activities to be at meets, but in the end people like your husband and mine do it because it is a passion and their calling and those who love them understand. Enjoy the moment!

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  57. Congrats to your Husband and to yourself as well!!! As the wife of a retired Air Force member, I remember how I felt the day he retired after a 26 + yr career. We are now both busier than ever and love all the time we have to pick and choose our volunteering opportunities! You have your precious Babba and he will keep you hopping if he decides to go on to band (the best thing that ever happened to students)!! Again Congrats!! (BTW my 4 grand-kids are also band members 3 clarinets and 1 french horn)

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  58. Great post about your great hubby. :) I love that you're so proud of him... good wife. :)

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  59. Congratulations to your husband and family on the new chapter you're starting :)

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  60. Holy. Cow.! I graduated with your step daughter!! I saw the pics of your husband and recognized him right away. I was in band in middle school in the same district! Such a small world!!

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  61. Congratulations and blessings as you start the next chapter of your lives. I'm a band mom, and I understand that a band director's job is a total family commitment. Thanks for giving so many kids a joyous musical experience.

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  62. "Mr. Holland's Opus" in real life.

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  63. Congratulations! I was lucky enough to march under John T. Wilson at North Putnam in the late 80's- early 90's. (Ask your husband, he probably knows him.) We had a school of about 600 kids, grades 7-12 and we had 163 kids in our class D band. It was all because of Mr. Wilson. Being a member of his band is something that I am still proud of today. Music teachers touch many lives. I am sure your husband has many alumni out there who feel the exact same way about him as I do about Mr. Wilson.

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  64. So bittersweet! Congratulations to you BOTH on serving those kids and actually reaching lives for all those years! My husband taught his last day today... :) He's starting a new business and working on the blog with me, so we're going through many of the same emotions, but mostly just excitement at what's ahead, and at the idea of being home together so much more! (P.S. Those kiddos are SO beautiful!)

    Kelly @ View Along the Way
    www.viewalongtheway.com

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  65. What a lovely testament. Your husband did not have a job, but it sounds like a true passion. Thank God for him and you! Arts in our schools are so very important, bless you all for the years of support and love to our young people and communities. Our family has raised 4 generations through music, from choir (my mother sang for President Eisenhower), my sister is a professional musician (flute), I spent years in marching band, 2 daughters in band (one a drum major) and a son who plays violin. We have been blessed to have amazing teachers and live in a community that supports it's arts with as much vigor and enthusiasm as our football team. Thank you again.

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  66. All I can think of is "Mr. Holland's Opus". Congratulations to your Mr. Holland.

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  67. Your man looks and sounds so very special. May the two of you enjoy his retirement years and cherish this phase in your lives!

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  68. All three of my children had the privilege of being a part of your husband's marching band legacy and I count it as one of the best things they could've ever been a part of, not only for all the fun, friends, discipline and pursuit of excellence they learned, but for what that translated into in life skills beyond high school. We are deeply grateful to your husbands dedication to the thousands of kids he influenced for good in so many ways throughout his career. Thank you Mr. S! And thank you Sarah, for being his support! God's richest blessings on this new chapter for you all!

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  69. Special people become teachers, in this world you are so correct one location. All those he has touched will always remember him.Thank you for sharing and my day will come too....my Hubby a coach,a principle and now a director of transportation. I have already taken the step after 38yrs retail his will be in a few years...again thank you for sharing

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  70. Congratulations on retirement!!! That is so amazing!

    I am awed by your husbands skills-- I think band directors know SO much. So many instruments, so much info-- kind of like a veterinarian compared to a doctor. ;)

    I am so happy for you guys! Woot woo! You're living the dream! Yay!

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  71. I retired from teaching after 35 years in the classroom, so I do understand the mixture of feelings, but I've never regretted my decision. Congratulations to both of you upon reaching this milestone. And a new chapter begins...

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  72. He looks to young to 'retire'!!! I am counting the days to my husband 'retires'. I also love having him home and being a family unit. Mind you I'm looking at several years yet. I wish you all the best for the next chapter of your lives together.

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  73. We live in southern Indiana and know your husband's school very well. I am the band booster president at my son's school, and know what a commitment it is to be a band director's wife. And at such an award-winning school ... wow. Our school is in class B, so luckily we are not direct competition with you for marching band, but we caught the show last year at state and loved it. We did compete directly with you at state concert band and orchestra.

    Your life will be so different now, and I wish all of you the best. I can't imagine the withdrawal your hubby will go through!

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  74. I retired after 30 years teaching Band in June 2012. This year has been an adjustment to say the least. I miss the kids the most. I hope your husband enjoys his well-earned retirement.

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  75. That is a very touching post for your husband. I am sure that he touched so many of his kids lives with his dedication. It takes a special person to be an educator of the arts, especially with teenagers! Congratulations on his retirement!

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  76. Your post was beautiful and brought tears to my eyes as well! What an amazing tribute to your wonderful husband!
    Wow! 30+ years...he has impacted more lives then you can ever imagine.

    Congratulations on this milestone...although bittersweet, amazing things are just around the corner!

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  77. Oh my gosh, this hits home.
    I started playing clarinet in 5th grade all the way through high school until I graduated.
    Our band and music department were one of the best in the state of Ohio.
    Our band director was like a father to us and when we left, we all cried. Sobbed really.
    His retirement party was three years ago and I drove the 8 hours from Chicago to be there.
    I think you and your husband know how much of an impact he has had on his "kids" lives so to hear this from a former band member shouldn't be a big surprise.
    By the way, that band director who "retired", couldn't stay away.
    He now helps out with the elementary school band to get them ready for middle school band so they groom them for The Band of Gold.
    Your husband is an inspiration and those kids will never ever forget all the lessons he taught them.

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  78. Congratulations to your husband! I retired from teaching after 35 years in the same school district that I went to as a student, so I got to spend 39 years in high school!! As a Guidance Counselor and Student Council Sponsor, I got to work with so many wonderful young men and women and some fabulous teachers. Of course I also went to over 30 Homecoming Dances, and Proms. I think the thing your husband will miss the most is the kids - that is why I still substitute in my district - just can't stay away from working with the kids!!

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  79. My husband knew he wanted to teach history since he was in the third grade. He retired after teaching HISTORY at the same school for 33 years. Out of every single year he inspired at least one student to teach. Including 2 of our children. Many of his former students chose to teach history. My husband is not a textbook teacher he is a story teller. He makes history real. It has been 4 years since he retired and not a week goes by that he does not see a former student, receive a phone call from a student or one shows up at our house for a chat. My husband taught generations of children. He continues to read and study history as well as work as a guest lecturer at a state university. He also teaches daily at a junior college. I believe that teachers are the backbone of our future.

    I celebrate your husbands accomplishment. He, too has changed the world one person at a time.

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  80. Such a beautiful post Sarah! Bittersweet really is a tough one, hopefully the bitter is short lived and the sweet lasts forever. And yay for more family time!

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  81. A beautiful tribute to a beautiful man!

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  82. As a former band member and a band mom/band board member/pit crew mom, I know how very involved and how much time you have given through the years. I felt a huge loss when band was over for my son, so I completely understand the loss you are feeling. But something else will come along to fill that void, while it will always be bittersweet you will always have beautiful memories. Also, our band used your husband's compositions several years in marching band so I know how talented of a composer he is. I also went to Marching Band State Finals and watched your husband's band compete so I know how talented of a director he is as well. Congratulations to both of you!!!

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  83. Your school was so very blessed. It had a music program that was supported and strong. The education system committed itself to a program that many schools have eliminated as 'unnecessary'. I believe with my whole heart our children miss a huge advantage when music is removed from their learning experience. So, congratulations to a hubby who gave so richly to our young people. Thanks again. So don't be sad, be proud. He and you did good!

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  84. Your school was so very blessed. It had a music program that was supported and strong. The education system committed itself to a program that many schools have eliminated as 'unnecessary'. I believe with my whole heart our children miss a huge advantage when music is removed from their learning experience. So, congratulations to a hubby who gave so richly to our young people. Thanks again. So don't be sad, be proud. He and you did good!

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  85. Beautiful posts! I know very much what you're going through-- My Daddy has been a high school football coach for 30+ years and is retiring this year, too. My whole life has been spent on a high school football field, in a locker room, and on a school bus travelling around the state for games, jamborees and scouting trips. My Dad will miss his "boys", but I the one who cries over it and I'm 30 with children of my own!

    I was in the band for 7 years, so I know your school and the students will miss your husband and YOU (!!) more than they ever imagined. But you will so enjoy going to the games to just watch! Good luck!

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  86. What a beautiful, poignant tribute to your husband! I could feel your sadness and happiness. I also retired recently after 30 plus years of working, and it is a big change. I found writing about my life in retirement has been helpful. Writing is therapeutic, and he may want to consider this outlet for feelings and experiences. If you are interested, you can find my musings at anewchapter-diane.blogspot.com.

    Keep up the great blog. I really enjoy reading it.

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  87. I was a choir junkie. Maybe i would have been in band if i had played trumpet like I wanted to instead of that awful flute we already owned (i remind myself of this when i try to talk one of my kids into something that worked for one kid but might not be the other kids desire.). It squashed my passion. But as i read your post, i think of my choir director i had. He was not doing it for the money or the prestige. He, too, was the reason our HS choir could compete with collegiate choirs. And, admittedly, on concert night, us gals couldnt help but notice how sharp he looked in the fancy tuxedo he'd wear. And he retired two years after i graduated and our HS school's choir legacy was over. I hope that wont be the case for your husband's school. I love those pictures you posted. I hope he has many happy years running the business and wish you all the best. Music is such a beautiful art. What a gift your husband has to bring that art to so many people.

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  88. What a beautiful and lovely tribute Sarah! This shows so much love! You are all such a blessing to all of us!

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  89. What a nice tribute to your husband! Your comment about being able to stick around your alma mater really struck a chord with me. I'm a substitute teacher at the high school I went to and I LOVE it! I loved high school too and being there every week and feeling the energy and watching kids on the brink of being adults is so much fun for me. Good luck to your husband--teachers are one of God's finest gifts!

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  90. Lovely post! Blessings to your family as your husband begins a new adventure!

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  91. When a music teacher retires, a really great one who's been there long enough to have the children of his past students in his band or choir, a little piece of the school dies...and is reborn. I was lucky enough to work with a GREAT choir director just before he retired...and there is something so awesome about a person who has been working in that room for longer than you have been alive. I am NOT saying my teacher was old - he was in his prime! but I AM saying that high school students are just babies...and your husband has taught thousands of very lucky babies.

    Onward and upward!

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  92. Beautiful beautiful post. Wishing you all the very best on this next exciting chapter in your lives!

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  93. Wonderful post. Thanks for sharing your heart.

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  94. Wonderful post. Thanks for sharing your heart.

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  95. I can only imagine how many kids he has inspired! My husband and I met in 7th grade band...we both played clarinet through 12th grade. (Oh, the band stories I could tell!) Our junior high band director was like a dad to us. In fact, I slipped up one time and accidentally called him, Dad. :) Congrats and best wishes on his next endeavor!

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  96. Very best wishes from over the pond - and hold this thought: He has introduced so many people to music - can't get better than that!, and they have learned that to be part of a team, a working machine if you like, is something wonderful in life. My husband is retired, me too, but there is always something to do, every single day, if you want there to be. Very best wishes to you both, with many happy years ahead.
    Mrs Mac

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  97. Best wishes on retirement. Our kids' band director is a good friend and retired last year, he is keeping busy with adjudicating and a part-time job and enjoying his hobbies...but he does miss the kids. What a career to know that for so many kids they will always look back with gratitude for being in band.
    Both our kids are music educators, we volunteer for their programs (they are over an hour away) and volunteer for their high school's band even though we haven't had a kid in high school since 07. A group of us "alumni band parents" are just back from making donuts overnight for the older one's band fundraiser. I hope that music education can continue in the schools but I'm fearful that with the cuts in our state (Ohio) it might not. Go Band!

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  98. Thank you for writing this - it was wonderful and made my feel so emotional - I love that you are so proud of your husband. Many good wishes for his retirement.

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  99. I am also retiring this year after 30 years teaching chemistry. I know exactly how he feels. I wish you both the best.

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  100. What a beautifully written tribute to your husband - and of your relationship. Your words were honest, and they showed such just how much respect and love that you have for this man.

    I hope that this sea change in your husband's life only brings him more opportunities in his music, and more time to spend with you and your children. Congrats to your fella on such a wonderful achievement!

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  101. Congrats to your hubs on such a fulfilling and wonder career!! Am sure he has touched many families and students through the years and meant so much to all! Enjoy the retirement -- besides his other activities, maybe he can be your assistant! :)

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  102. Wow... I just had a Mr. Holland's Opus moment there. LOL

    Your words brought me to tears. We need more men like your husband... who devote their time and careers to shaping and teaching our children. It truly is a gift.

    Congratulations to your husband. I hope he looks at his retirement as a new door opening and not one closing.

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  103. Beautiful post -- and Congrats to your hubby! I am married to a teacher and HS coach, so I know about the 'going to activities so the kids can see their Dad' part. :)

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  104. Please Sarah, Brag away! What an amazing accomplishment for both of you! You have every right to be proud, I just love hearing wonderful stories like this- congratulations to all of you for a wonderful journey you are leaving behind and also here's to all of you on a great new journey a head :)

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  105. Oh, such a nice post. I loved the pics of the Bub when he was small. Hee hee! Nice pics of your hubby too. It sure will be strange this fall..
    Congrats on your retirement, Mr. Sarah.
    Have a wonderful time celebrating him and all his achievements.
    Chrissy

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  106. What a beautiful, beautiful post Sarah. Y'all seem so young to be doing anything for 30 years. :)

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  107. Beautiful post Sarah...he's blessed to have had such a rewarding career for so long! He seems like a wonderful man. Thank you for sharing this side of you and your family. Now I feel like I know you better :)

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  108. I know it's sad in some ways but this is also the start of a whole new adventure! You guys are so young and have sooooo much goodness still ahead. Can you just imagine all the fun that awaits! Congrats to your hubby for reaching such an amazing milestone and thank him for me for being a teacher. I so wish there were more men teaching in our schools, our children need those role models and your husbande truly sounds like he was a wonderful one to the children he taught. God Bless you both, Sarah. It's going to be another awesome 30+ years!

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  109. tears here...

    I love band. My husband and I weren't band kids when we were in high school, but we recognized the values of being a part of a band program and playing a musical instrument. We made our daughters participate in the middle school band and now, one continues playing the flute and is a color guard, and the other plays the clarinet in our awesome high school band, and they are there because they LOVE it and their best friends are also band kids. Our high school is huge, so it is important to be a part of a group/organization so you don't get lost. At awards day, the majority of kids with a 4.0 or above GPA were band kids. That's a big accomplishment, because band requires a lot of time and energy.

    We also love winter guard. Didn't know what it was until this past year, and now we're planning to go to DCI shows and can't wait for the DCI movie to come out. :)

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    1. Bittersweet.... you nailed it. Your post was beautiful and what a lovely way to honor your husband and his work. His heart must be full knowing how much his wife loves him.

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  110. I just realized who your husband is, and I'm in complete awe now. I have seen the marching band he was over, and I've been to many BOA shows in Indy, and that group has been one of my top favorites. I'm a band nerd at heart as well (I was in colorguard in high school, college, and drum corps, and continue to teach on the side when time is available). He really has had a positive impact on music education, and a big thanks to him for everything he's done!!

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    1. Thank you Alisa! I will be sure to show him this, he'll appreciate it so much. :) :)

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